Even the best parents fall down sometimes. They make mistakes, make the wrong choices, and come up with erroneous judgments. Parents are humans, after all.
But, it doesn’t mean that you have to just settle for these and let things flow as they are. There are several parenting behaviors you need to do less of or stop altogether.
Trying to Win Arguments
Trying to win every single argument and proving you are right will harm the relationship with your child and foster an environment for conflict. Instead of winning arguments, pay attention to things that really matter.
Doing Everything all the Time
Your kids should learn how to look after themselves. You need to hone them to become individuals who can stand on their own feet. Your goal as a parent is to make them as independent as possible. Instead of doing everything for them all the time, you should start delegating things to do.
Not Expecting Too Much
It can be quite tricky to have expectations. Too high expectations will make your kids give up. Setting your expectations too low will make it easier for kids to meet them. Encourage your kids to improve their abilities during the critical age of their development.
Not Giving Proper Recognition
It is all too easy to take for granted any good behavior that your children show and the contributions they make to the family. They will dwell more on those behaviors you focus on so make sure you recognize them every time they do the right thing.
Speaking While You are Consumed with Anger
Speaking can become a default mechanism no matter what your emotional state might be. Your kids will never listen to you if you are angry. They will only focus on your wrath instead of your words. Always choose the right place and the right time to talk to your kids.
Allowing Kids to Distance Themselves from the Family
Children in small families tend to have their own rooms and as a result, isolation follows. In particular, teenagers prefer to spend them on their own instead of being in the company of parents and peers. To avoid this from happening, have some rituals and routines to follow. See to it that everyone is gathered around the table every mealtime.
Kids usually know and feel who the preferred or favored child in the family is as this is revealed by your expectations and discipline. Avoid playing favorites and treat everyone equally.
Settling for the Easy Way Out
Due to the hectic pace of today’s modern life with parents too busy with their work and other activities, it is all too easy to fall into the pitfall of avoiding arguments by just letting kids have their way. If you know that you are on the right side of the fence, make sure you stick to that.
Not Letting Go of the Past
Ghosts of the past are quite strong and they can make transfer some of your problems to your children. However, it is not necessary for you to share your own experiences when growing up with your kids. Give your parenting antenna a tune-up and realize that your life and the life of your child are two different things.